Wax Play
Cordelia Michaelson
Sassmaster whose life revolves around horses and crime shows.
Cordelia is back to give us some education on wax play during sex and foreplay!
So the more Tawney asks me to write for her, the more I find myself diving into new worlds (like fetish worlds…balloon blog, for example.) I’m actually having a lot of fun with it. I was spit balling for some blog ideas with a friend and she sort of timidly peeped up with “what about hot wax play? Because I kind of want to try it.” And dammit did she strike up my curiosity. I haven’t actually tried this yet but man, I’m excited to play.Getting started:
According to several sources, wax play is one way to get started in the world of BDSM. It’s beginner level and easy enough to take part in. Plus, I don’t know if you’ve ever seen your partner naked in the slow glow of candles but it’s actually pretty sexy. One of my fondest memories in my six year relationship is our two year anniversary. I got a candle light massage before we got down to the business and it was one of the most relaxing things I’ve ever experienced and my partner and I got to connect on a pretty deep level. Anyhow, back to the wax play. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING before we go ANY further, DO NOT use a regular candle. Seriously, using a regular candle can and will end with one of you getting some pretty nasty burns and breaking my number one rule of staying the fuck out of my E.R. So don’t do it, okay? The have special candles for this activity called massage candles. Most of them are anywhere from $6 and run all the way up to $30.What’s the difference?
What’s the difference in regular candles and massage candles? Well, massage candles are soy-based for starters (no, this doesn’t mean use regular soy candles) and unlike regular candles, they melt into oil and -not- wax. Wax WILL burn you. The scent of the candle is something you want to keep in mind too. A lot of different scents can trigger certain reactions and essential oil infused candles can have added benefits. Personally, I hate certain smells like Eucalyptus. So for me, it would end up being more of a turn off. I also hate floral stuff. So make sure you touch base with your partner.Now that you picked out your massage candle and have it in your eager hands, how do you start? Light your candle and let it burn for about thirty minutes. While you’re waiting for your candle to start melting, you and your partner can get the ball rolling in the shower.
Letting it burn will allow the candle to melt evenly, not only making it easier to use in the future but it creates a container of sorts. That will allow you to not only slowly pour it on your partner but you’ll be able to dip your fingers in it and spread it around that way as well. Some of them even come with special brushes to use as well.