Manners at a Strip Club
Wisteria Dixon
Wisteria is a young writer and dancer with years of experience in the academic world as well as the sex industry.
Wisteria is back with some sex education about strip club manners!
When I went to the strip club for the first time I was so nervous! I knew there was etiquette and rules but had only seen clubs on TV. I was lucky enough to have a few friends to show me the ropes. This blog is a collection of general manners for customers that are going for the first time or even for the seasoned customer that was unaware. *Some of this is general club etiquette, some is more specific for Oregon clubs. In Oregon, full nudity is allowed with a full bar, and we also have 18+ full nude clubs with no alcohol. Some physical contact is allowed with the dancer as well.Bring Money!
First things first, bring money! Dancers in most states are independent and are not employees, which means they don’t make an hourly wage or have sick time, medical, etc. They completely rely on tips, and also have to pay the club to work there. As a general rule, I won’t go to the club with less than $80. This allows for a drink or two for myself and maybe a dancer, a lap dance, and some ones for stage sets. You don’t need to bring a ton of money, but also don’t expect a free show. The more money you give, the more attention you get! Sit at the stage and tip rack at least once during your stay, and tip the dancer at least a dollar or two per song when you’re at the rack. Keep in mind the more you tip, the more attention you get! Stage time is not for touching, and remember not to pull your phone out.Don’t forget to tip!
Dancers love customers who tip! If a dancer is spending time with you, chatting with you, tip them! Buy them a drink, do a private dance, etc. Show them you appreciate and respect their time. If you feel like they gave an amazing VIP, show them some love and give them a bit extra. Just don’t try and haggle over dance or VIP prices please!
Consent is key!
Consent is sexy. Don’t touch without asking. Grabbing and groping during private dances, sneakily brushing a butthole, or trying to lick a vagina is bad behavior and illegal. They are humans with feelings and boundaries. However, if you ask them, a dancer might allow more things like letting you grab their butt or touch their hair. Some dancers also spend hours getting ready. Your hair pulling can ruin hours of work, and your face rubbing could smear their makeup. In a job where they need to look perfect at all times, don’t make that harder for them!Be clean!
Be clean! Please shower and put on deodorant before coming to the club. When working a full nude club, grinding your bare vagina on someone’s dirty clothes can cause infections and all sorts of problems. Just be clean please!Be nice!
Don’t bad mouth dancers to other dancers. It’s impolite and puts the dancer in an awkward position. Also don’t expect all dancers to be the same. One person’s boundaries are not the same as another’s and it’s ill-mannered to try and guilt someone into breaking them.Name doesn’t matter
Real talk: Don’t ask their real name. Stage names are there for safety reasons. DO NOT out them in public either. If you see a dancer in public, nod or completely ignore them. Don’t try and add them on their personal social media accounts.If you are a female customer, you still need to follow the same rules. You still need to tip at the rack, still no touching without consent. Don’t throw money in their face. If you’re coming only because your boyfriend wants to, don’t take it out on the dancers. They’re just here to work and pay their bills, not date your boyfriend. But whatever you do, do not get up on that stage. Not only are you taking stage time away from dancers but you’re liable to get hurt.
The big takeaway is to just be respectful and remember that this is someone’s job. You help put food on their table, and in return they help fulfill some of your sensual needs and fantasies. Dancers are entertainers, they create a safe and non-judgmental space for you to relax and enjoy yourself. Give them the respect they deserve, and feel the love in return!
Interested in auditioning at a strip club? Check out Wisteria’s guide HERE!
