I always thought I was boring, that there was no way I’d keep someone’s interest…

Especially when I started diving into the sex industry. I was always thinking I was too ‘vanilla’ to learn about, and teach others sex education. That because I enjoyed missionary and the same practices with my partner that I was somehow creating a boring experience…

Until recently, I hadn’t embraced the power of my situation.

If it’s not broken, learn how to fix it in the future

My husband and I enjoy what we enjoy. None of it is incredibly experimentive, kinky, or anything to gasp about. Every so often we engage in something new and exciting, especially when reviewing sex toys and products. It’s always an erotic, welcomed adventure but in the end, we come back to what we love. For so long I lived with the belief that there could be no way he was really enjoying himself. That after a while, this would become boring and he’d crave more. But for the moment, we are five years in and still having the same, vanilla, regular sex.

Of course, I am more than happy I’ve been able to dive into the erotic world and learn more about kinks and fetishes. This has opened the door to many conversations with my husband and we both know, if things start to get stale, we can easily call upon what we have learned and experiment with each other. In the meantime, though, I’m not going to allow my own mind to tell me that what I’m doing is somehow ‘wrong’. That if I don’t switch it up a ton, my sex life will fail. We are all different and we all enjoy a wide spectrum of sexual acts, but in the end we have to recognize that this is our preference, and there’s nothing wrong with what we do during sex.

For the full rant, watch the video below!