The holidays can be hard for everyone, but for those in the sex industry, it can be even more so. 

Seasonal Camming 

For a lot of us, it’s incredibly difficult to not equate your own personal worth with how your business is faring. During this time of the year, much like Summer, viewers and customers are strapped for cash and busy with their own family events. During this slower season, it’s easy to be effected and emotionally drained. This is normal for all performers and must be acknowledged. It’s OKAY to feel sad that your goals are not being met, it’s OKAY to take a mental health day. It’s NOT okay to use the success of your show to decide your own mental health and happiness. Especially if you are seeing others finding success where you are not. (For a blog about Minding Your Hustle, click HERE.) 

For a blog about Seasonal Camming and the depression and sadness that can go hand-in-hand with the slow seasons, click HERE.

Family and Judgment

If you are someone who is not lucky enough to have a family that is both supportive and understanding of your life or job, you may find yourself faced with extreme anxiety at the mere thought of dealing with family. During this time of the season, it’s hard to avoid family and friends and if it’s an unhealthy experience for you it’s okay to remind yourself of several things. 

1.) You are enough. What they think does not impact your self worth or who you are. You. Are. Enough. 

2.) You cannot force others to understand or believe what you believe, you can only control your reaction to their words. If you are being put in a compromising situation. You. Can. Leave. Do not allow others to mistreat you just because they are family. 

3.) If you have found peace with yourself and your own self worth, the difficulty of others will not effect you as much. Although it’s hard to simply ‘ignore’ others and what they say or do to disrespect you, know, again, that it does not define who you are or your self worth. Only you can decide if you are less.