A Lesson in JOI – Jerk Off Encouragement
TAWNEY SEREN
YouTuber, Reviewer, Author, and Host of Open Bobs BB
Jerk Off Encouragement (JOI) is a common kink!
JOI is the act of telling someone how to touch themselves. This is often done in written messages or through videos made for someone. It’s an incredible way to transfer control to someone else and engage in a different level of intimacy. But how do you engage in JOI? What can you say to give someone an incredible orgasm with your commands alone? In this article, I will give you my JOI tips and tricks. We will also get some sex education as to why JOI is so desireable!Ask what they need first!
There is no need to train yourself to pleasure someone else if you have no idea what they are looking for! Whether this is your partner, a customer, or someone completely random – everyone has different desires. Having a conversation about what the outcome is will assist you during your learning. One person may want you to describe how you would give them a blowjob, whereas another may want you to describe them playing with your feet. If you don’t inquire, you will not know how to proceed!Understand there are no creative boundaries in JOI
Before I give you some advice in JOI, there’s something important you need to know. There are NO boundaries in JOI. You can be dominant, or submissive. You can roleplay hundreds of scenarios or cater to thousands of kinks. The interests and limits discussed with yourself and the other party involved are all that matters. There’s no ‘right’ way to engage in JOI play, but there are ways to prepare and get more comfortable with it!“During Jerkoff instruction, an instructor tells and sometimes shows a man how to masturbate. The instruction will usually tell men how hard or soft to jerk off, how rapid his strokes should be, and where he should touch. The instructor may also use a visual aid, like a dildo or vibrator, to demonstrate the right technique.” – Kinkly